--- title: The Truth About Confidence description: Explore how to build real confidence in children by acknowledging feelings and embracing imperfections --- [Skip to content](https://www.mellow.kids/blog/the-truth-about-confidence#main-content) [![Mellow Kids](https://www.mellow.kids/hubfs/logo-white-2.svg)](https://www.mellow.kids) - [Home](https://www.mellow.kids) - [Resources](https://www.mellow.kids/resources) - [Blog](https://www.mellow.kids/blog) - [The Team](https://www.mellow.kids/about) - [Contact Us](https://www.mellow.kids/contact-us) Open main navigation Close main navigation - [Home](https://www.mellow.kids) - [Resources](https://www.mellow.kids/resources) - [Blog](https://www.mellow.kids/blog) - [The Team](https://www.mellow.kids/about) - [Contact Us](https://www.mellow.kids/contact-us) - [Personal Sleep Support](https://www.mellow.kids/personal-sleep-support) [Personal Sleep Support](https://www.mellow.kids/personal-sleep-support) [All posts](https://www.mellow.kids/blog/all) [Blog](https://www.mellow.kids/blog/all) / [Parenting & wellbeing](https://www.mellow.kids/topics/parenting-wellbeing) / The Truth About Confidence # The Truth About Confidence 1 minute read  ·  Updated July 22, 2026 ![Picture of Daiany Nascimento](https://www.mellow.kids/hs-fs/hubfs/Daiany%201-1.jpg?width=50&height=50&name=Daiany%201-1.jpg) Written By Daiany Nascimento Certified Pediatric Sleep Specialist ![Picture of Mary Ann Nero](https://www.mellow.kids/hs-fs/hubfs/Mary%20Ann-1.png?width=50&height=50&name=Mary%20Ann-1.png) Medically Reviewed By Mary Ann Nero Clinical Advisor | Registered Nurse (Pediatrics & Obstetrics) In this article Raising the next generation, we often find ourselves in a reflective mirror, parenting our own inner child as we parent our kids. How can I instil confidence in my child when I battle with my own insecurities? I recently faced this head-on during an investment pitch. Despite my belief in our project and my desire to offer something genuinely transformative for parents, my self-doubt in public speaking tortures me. Witnessing others effortlessly secure investments for seemingly superficial products only amplified my self-judgment.  Yet, while reading "Good Inside" by Dr. Becky, I learned an important lesson. When our children compare themselves to others - perhaps feeling inferior because a peer reads faster or runs quicker - they aren't seeking dismissive comfort like, "That's not true!" or "You're great in other ways!" They crave our understanding and reassurance in confronting these realities. Ironically, trying to shield them or artificially boost their esteem can erode their confidence. Confidence isn't just feeling positive about oneself; it's rooted in self-trust and the ability to navigate and accept our emotions. When we acknowledge our children's feelings and respond with genuine curiosity - "That sounds tough, can you tell me more?" - we lay the foundation for true self-assurance. Real confidence isn't about excelling at everything. It's about embracing oneself, flaws and all, and feeling good in one's skin, even when we don't top the chart. ❤️ ## Related posts [![](https://www.mellow.kids/hubfs/mom-depressed.png)](https://www.mellow.kids/blog/postpartum-blues-depression-anxiety-whats-normal-and-when-to-get-support) [Parenting & wellbeing](https://www.mellow.kids/topics/parenting-wellbeing) ### [Postpartum Blues, Depression & Anxiety: What’s Normal and When to Get Support](https://www.mellow.kids/blog/postpartum-blues-depression-anxiety-whats-normal-and-when-to-get-support) Welcoming a new baby is one of life’s most powerful experiences. 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