--- title: Signs of Separation Anxiety description: "Separation Anxiety: It's when your baby or toddler starts feeling anxious whenever you're out of sight. Whether it appears suddenly or gradually, it can affect your child's life, including their sleep." image: https://www.mellow.kids/hubfs/kelli-mcclintock-U3SjBD72Tl0-unsplash.jpg --- [Skip to content](https://www.mellow.kids/blog/signs-of-separation-anxiety#main-content) [![Mellow Kids](https://www.mellow.kids/hubfs/logo-white-2.svg)](https://www.mellow.kids) - [Home](https://www.mellow.kids) - [Resources](https://www.mellow.kids/resources) - [Blog](https://www.mellow.kids/blog) - [The Team](https://www.mellow.kids/about) - [Contact Us](https://www.mellow.kids/contact-us) Open main navigation Close main navigation - [Home](https://www.mellow.kids) - [Resources](https://www.mellow.kids/resources) - [Blog](https://www.mellow.kids/blog) - [The Team](https://www.mellow.kids/about) - [Contact Us](https://www.mellow.kids/contact-us) - [Personal Sleep Support](https://www.mellow.kids/personal-sleep-support) [Personal Sleep Support](https://www.mellow.kids/personal-sleep-support) [All posts](https://www.mellow.kids/blog/all) [Blog](https://www.mellow.kids/blog/all) / [Development](https://www.mellow.kids/topics/development) / Signs of Separation Anxiety # Signs of Separation Anxiety 1 minute read  ·  Updated July 22, 2026 ![baby looking out of the window](https://www.mellow.kids/hubfs/kelli-mcclintock-U3SjBD72Tl0-unsplash.jpg) ![Picture of Daiany Nascimento](https://www.mellow.kids/hs-fs/hubfs/Daiany%201-1.jpg?width=50&height=50&name=Daiany%201-1.jpg) Written By Daiany Nascimento Certified Pediatric Sleep Specialist ![Picture of Mary Ann Nero](https://www.mellow.kids/hs-fs/hubfs/Mary%20Ann-1.png?width=50&height=50&name=Mary%20Ann-1.png) Medically Reviewed By Mary Ann Nero Clinical Advisor | Registered Nurse (Pediatrics & Obstetrics) In this article Separation Anxiety: It's when your baby or toddler starts feeling anxious whenever you're out of sight. Whether it appears suddenly or gradually, it can affect your child's life, including their sleep. ## Signs of separation anxiety: ### **6-8 months:** - Display distress when you leave the room or when they are left with someone else. - May cling to you or cry when you are not near. ### **9-12 months:** - Increased clinginess and crying during separations. - May show fear towards strangers or unfamiliar situations. - Might have trouble sleeping or exhibit changes in sleep patterns. ### **13-18 months:** - Demonstrates a strong preference for you over other people. - May have tantrums when separated or when you leave the room. - Could wake up crying during the night, looking for comfort. ### **19 months to 3 years:** - Verbalize their distress about separation or the fear of you leaving. - May have a hard time saying goodbye or resisting separations vehemently. - Exhibiting nightmares or night awakenings seeking reassurance. ### **Preschool Age (3-5 years):** - May verbalize fears or worries about separation. - Have trouble during drop-offs at preschool or other separation moments. - Could develop physical complaints, like a stomachache, to avoid separations. ## How to help you child through this phase 1. **Establish a Consistent Routine**: Adhering to a predictable daily routine can provide a sense of security for your baby. 2. **Practice Short Separations**: Start with brief separations to help your baby gradually get used to being apart from you. 3. **Stay Calm During Goodbyes**: Make your goodbyes short and sweet to help your baby feel secure. 4. **Use Comfort Items**: Offer a comfort item like a pacifier if your child takes it. Only for children above 12 months (for safety reasons), you can offer a cosy blanket or stuffed animal to provide a sense of security. 5. **Engage in Bonding Activities**: Spend quality time together during the day to reassure your baby of your presence and love. Having intentional 1-on-1 time with your child, even if it’s only 10-15 minutes can do wonders. 6. **Create a Soothing Bedtime Routine**: Establish a calming pre-sleep routine to help ease separation anxiety at bedtime. 7. **Avoid Sneaking Out**: Always say goodbye before leaving to build trust. 8. **Reinforce Independence**: Encourage independent play during the day to build your baby’s confidence and independence. 9. **Respond Promptly**: When your baby is distressed, respond promptly to provide comfort. 10. **Seek Professional Advice**: If separation anxiety is severe or prolonged, consider consulting a paediatrician for personalized advice. Each baby is unique, and what works may vary. 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